The First Move...

In blogger world, the people I cyber stalk whose blogs I read have been engaging in a 31 day challenge of their choice and one of my super favorite bloggers, Shannon has been doing a series on being a better wife. I thought on and off about experimenting on a similar challenge but then the hubby would tick me off and I say pfft not gonna happen. Well Friday night- something must have clicked for him ( though he states he got advice from the guys from work on how to get more nookie- lol) but anyways he CLEANED the bathroom.We have lived in this house over a year and he has never cleaned a thing and well it has really changed our lives weekend. That little step made me want to do better. So when he came home later that day I had his favorite crab pretzels waiting for him and that scored me major points. He then took the kids for a wagon ride that evening before baths which again hardly happens. I'm sure most  moms out there agree or maybe its just me but there is something super sexy about a man taking care of his children. So that led to me putting off nightly chores- ie washing the mountain of dishes the next monring instead of that night and I instead cuddled in bed with my hubby for the night and we laughed and watched movies and had adult time. It felt just like before we jumped hyperdrived into parenthood.

It was PERFECTION! And then Sunday rolled around. I was able to wake up before the girls- who slept in later than usual which allowed me to get the dishes done and a cup of coffee before getting all three up to start our day. He went to work as usual but came home for lunch. he even brought me the Sunday paper unasked because he knows I like to go through the ads and collect the coupons. The weekend was everything I had always imagined my life would be. I had a family. A husband who was present and considerate. He even gave the twins a bath (again something he never does) and that little act just lightened my load enough to give me the energy to spend time together. We hung out and watched Dexter and just talked like old times.

To think all this change with just one step.  I wonder if I had made such a step sooner could our relationship be further along. I spend a lot of time being a good homemaker- cooking dinner and cleaning and doing laundry and  a good Mommy that I forget that being those two things doesn't add to being a good wife. Sure it is a part of it making sure he eats and has fresh clothes for work and that our bills get paid but a BIGGER part is making time for us. Doing things for us to make sure our flame doesn't go out. The point I guess I am trying to make it is that we all know all relatiopnships have their ups and downs but it is truly amazing how a small gesture can start the monentum in any given direction.